Now that it's all over for another year, I can share some musings on Hallowe'en .
The other day I was reading about how parents learn to let go - a little - when their kids want to trick-or-treat by themselves. It was an interesting article until I got to the part which stated that these are kids of 12!
Now, I know "the past is a foreign country" but, really? These kids are wanting to go door to door for candy? I know that anyone who was twelve years old when I was younger (under 12) was a BIG KID. They could do all sorts of cool stuff that I couldn't do. But one of the things that I could do was dress up and go trick-or-treating. It was a little-kid kind of event for us. The only big kids who ever did this were looking for trouble, not treats. And they didn't really dress up, either.
Living in the city is a vastly different experience to being a kid in the country where I grew up. I know that. And, I know that, as I get older, I worry about all sorts of fears that I never even thought of before I was a parent. O,r more recently, a grandparent. My kids are all grown-up but I still can't hear a siren without thinking about where my kids are. Not that I actually have any clue on an hourly basis as I did when they were little - mostly.
But back to Hallowe'en. The concerned parents were advised to make sure the kids had buddies, cell phones and a curfew. And a further admonishment not to eat anything 'til they got home and had a parental review of the takings. I seem to recall hearing and saying this - minus the phone - myself. Just common sense, I think. But apparently what was common is no longer. And the kids aren't learning it for themselves when they are young. The message seems to be delayed years longer than necessary. Or presented with a big fear factor.

So, my brain segue'd to a faraway time when we kids played outside for hours and hours without anyone having any real idea where we were. Sure, we got into some scrapes but it was just part of growing up. I vividly remember when I was nine cycling with my younger brother all of three miles very early one Saturday morning. We were going to suss out our new house. No one knew we were gone and I'm not sure they ever knew. We knew the rules of the road - or we wouldn't have had the bikes! And, yes, there was chilly thrill of heading into the unknown. Three years later, we were both heading off with our bikes loaded with newspapers in the early morning darkness. No adults came with us after once showing us our routes.
Hmmm...I'm digressing again. I'm not sure why I was shocked at the tight control of kids lives. I know this is true these days - especially in urban areas. Maybe it was just realizing how old the kids in question were. And I wonder if all the safety nets keep kids from actually learning how to protect themselves. Maybe, this is a much bigger thing than Hallowe'en freedom?
There. Glad that's off my mind.